This blog post is something different. It’s nothing to do with fashion or food but instead about something personal. I decided to write this post after I had received a message from an old friend, well a slightly ex old friend. She made reference to a blog post about two best friends who had grew apart. Sadly, I know all too well about this.

Sometimes in life, you meet someone who really touches your heart and you believe your life would not be worth living unless you share every aspect of your waking day with them. You tell them your secrets, your bothers, your excitements, your achievements, everything! And when they go away, you can’t wait for them to come back. And when you go away, you can’t wait to get back to them! Do you get my drift?

Do you remember those hilarious nights where you did crazy things which no-one would ever understand other than your best friend? Do you remember the late nights, the break ups, the copious amounts of junk food and ice cream? Oh and don’t forget those cheesy chick flick films as well! Not to mention all those times you’d raid each other’s wardrobes and borrow clothes off each other!

But what about those times when it wasn’t so good? See it’s different with girls, lads are friends for life. I think that’s because lads never really grow up (sorry, it’s true). But with girls, we’re so different and sooner or later, one of you changes. One of you takes a different path. A path that unfortunately, doesn’t involve the other. The late nights, the copious amounts of alcohol and junk food all gets replaced with responsibilities, work socials and new opportunities. And no that’s not to say, one grew up and the other different. One just grew into a rose and the other grew into a daisy. Both equal flowers, equal human beings, just going their separate ways.

At first it’s gradual, as it’s unnoticeable but then suddenly you wake up one day and realise that that person has well truly gone out of your life. You begin to realise, when was the last time I saw this person? When did we last have a photo together? When did I even stalk her Facebook account last?! You don’t realise it when it’s happening, then suddenly when it’s gone you’re hit in the face with it. You suddenly reflect upon the memories and the things you’ve learnt from that friendship. Sometimes it’s hard to see the good things in something when it ended so negatively. But it’s important you do in order to bring closure.

At one point in your life, that person brought you happiness and joy. Although towards the end this person didn’t, you still have some amazing memories. These memories which you will tell your children and grandchildren because those were the years you did crazy, stupid stuff! You may have grown apart and now lead separate lives but you should always want the best for that person, as they probably want the same for you. While they may be doing things in their life which is completely different to yours, accepting it and hoping they do well at it makes you an all round greater human being.

Just because you’re not in their life anymore, it doesn’t mean that you don’t think about them and they don’t think about you! So when you see that person in the street, don’t remember the bad times you shared with them. Smile and say hello as you walk past thinking about all those hysterically funny memories. Don’t hold any grudges, don’t hold any negativity and certainly don’t hold them to their secrets they once told you! Don’t forget, this person once trusted you with their whole life.

So this post is just to say thanks. Thanks for the memories, thanks for the wild nights and crazy trips away. You once made me really happy and I hope I once made you happy also.

Signed, the girl who used to be your best friend x