Hello you!

I’m sorry I haven’t posted in a while but I have been mega busy with work, house hunting and just trying to have a social life! So I do apologise!

I wanted to write a blog post about something which has been on my mind for a while now. Something which I feel I am at that age now where people ask that all important question: When are you having children then?!

This has been on mind for a while but only recently surfaced when I attended a family gathering the other day. It was a chance to catch up with each other, see who’s had children and find out how everyone is getting on. Here I was, with my partner just enjoying the atmosphere and all that was repeated throughout the night was:

Which children are yours?

Do you have any children?

Are you not having any children?

I laughed it off at first, but then it dawned on me. When am I going to have children? Should I have them now? Just in case it becomes harder later on to have them, after all, we’ve all seen and heard of those stories of women who couldn’t get pregnant in their 30’s because they’ve left it late! I mean how much pressure is that? Have children now or it’s too late. And also, don’t forget the added pressure of having children before my loved ones leave this world! I want my children to enjoy as much times with their grandparents as they can!

Then there’s the other side of the spectrum, don’t become a mum, have a career. Be top boss and don’t let a man rule the world. Women are the minority in management positions and it is a very dominant male world. So it’s important that we challenge this in order to fight for equality. Don’t be the the stay at home mum who has no social life, be the high earner and work 6 days a week to have a good career. You don’t want time off to have a baby, that’s going to damage your reputation in the company! Because, after all, once you’ve had one, the company will anticipate you’ll only have more!

After having all of these thoughts buzz around my head I came to the conclusion of this; it’s my life. If I don’t want to have children right now, that’s ok. If I do, that’s also ok. In life, you have to do what is right for you and you only. I love to travel and see new places. Right now, that’s my main passion. Well, minus fashion blogging of course! Sometimes, I forget that I need to just focus on me. While others in my life are having children or getting married, I just need to be happy for them and not worry whether this is what I should also be doing. I have come to terms with accepting that everyone is on a different pathway in life. And while I may do the same as them by getting married and having children, I will do it when I am ready.

This post is not here to bash anyone, or judge anyone or tell anyone what they should be doing. I wrote this post to share with you my worries and how I overcame these. Ladies, you do what is right for you. Fuck what others think, fuck what others are doing and fuck what you think you should be doing. Do what you WANT to do. If you wanna be the career women, you go get ’em. If you wanna be that stay at home mum, you rock it. Or finally, if you don’t even know what you want to do, you channel it. Because at the end of the day, we only have one life and you have to live it how you want to. Everyone is different.

So let’s raise a glass, with a smile on our face, and say cheers to doing what you want to do in life. It’s now or never to make the future yours and direct it down the path which is right for YOU!

They always say the best is yet to come, right?!

The future is mine for the taking and I’m going to grab it by two hands! And when the time is right for me, children will come. Until then, I’m going to celebrate the milestones in my life that I have already achieved so far.

Enjoy the photos! And please share with me your responses to this latest post.

Love to you all,

S2tC xoxo